Does anyone else feel like a trapped animal in relationships, platonic or otherwise, and feel the need to run?
I haven’t had this feeling with every relationship, but I have had it with most of them.
Most recent is this woman I started talking to in November of last year. She’s nice enough, but she came on very strong only a few days into us talking. We are strictly friends, nothing more, but she gets very intimate with personal details and overshares quite a bit. A few days into us being friends, and she was telling me how important I had come to be to her, and how I made her so, so happy and pulled her out of a very dark place … this made me feel uncomfortable since we had barely known each other 3 days when she said this.
Throw into the mix she randomly told me that, if anyone had consent to randomly fondle her breasts or use them as stress balls, it was me. I told her I would never do that, least of all randomly, to her or anyone—unless they were my partner (and even then, it wouldn’t be random, I’d ask first). She didn’t push it, but essentially told me the option was there. That felt super fucking weird and uncomfortable.
I don’t know if she is aware just how inappropriately she was speaking to me, she says she has AuDHD, and that this contributes to her oversharing and inability to recognise whether or not she is being TMI. Understandable, I’m neurodivergent as well, but this feels off. Maybe it’s because she feels like she clicked with me, but I do not at all feel the same way.
I also feel a bit like she is love-bombing me, so that doesn’t help (the repetitive “you’re so important to me”, “I care about you as a friend”, “you can tell me anything, I won’t judge you!!”, etc is making me feel so uncomfortable). I intend to talk to her about this very soon to make sure we are on the same page with everything, but I have myself wondering if perhaps it’s just a C-PTSD response and I am making an issue of nothing because I am scared and want to run from the friendship. Idk, whenever I think too much about this, I feel my skin crawling and everything in me tells me to run, but my own parents (I’m 23 for context) tell me to just feel things out, set boundaries, and see how it goes—so it has me wondering if maybe I an overreacting in my strong desire to cut her off and run.
ETA: Thank you everyone for your responses. I messaged the woman last night to tell her how I felt about the friendship. I’m currently building myself up to see her response, but I am really hoping it won’t be a bad one—if it is I have every intention of blocking her.