I am so confused and guilty after my breakup..Need advice

Hey everyone,

I’m going through a really complicated situation, and I need some advice because I’m feeling so confused and guilty.

So, my ex-girlfriend and I broke up a while ago, but we mutually agreed to help each other move on. We were talking almost daily, but the plan was to gradually reduce how much we talked until we could fully move on. Everything seemed okay until, a few months later, she told me she had started liking another guy. That completely broke me because I realized she had moved on, while I was still stuck and hadn’t even begun to heal.

After she told me about this new guy, I was heartbroken, and we officially broke things off two days ago. I told her not to call me anymore because I needed space to process everything. However, she called me four times today, and I didn’t pick up because I’m still so hurt and trying to stay away.

At the same time, I’ve been feeling depressed and disconnected from everyone, so I didn’t answer my parents’ calls either. My sister got really worried since I wasn’t answering her calls as well. She ended up calling my ex to find out where I was. My ex, not knowing what else to do, called my roommate, and he told her I was in my room. After that, she informed my sister about my whereabouts.

Here’s where it gets messier: My sister was on the phone with one of my friends, asking him if he knew where I was. When she mentioned my ex was helping her find me, my friend suggested putting her on a conference call. During that call, my friend scolded and verbally abused my ex, even though she was only trying to help.

Now, I feel so guilty. Even though my ex hurt me deeply by moving on and breaking my heart, I feel bad that she was treated that way when she was just helping my family out of concern for me. I feel like I owe her an apology for how my friend behaved, but at the same time, I’m struggling with everything that’s happened between us.

I’m stuck in this loop of guilt, anger, and sadness. On one hand, I’m angry at her for how she moved on and left me heartbroken. On the other hand, I feel terrible about how she was treated in this situation.

Should I apologize to her for how my friend acted? Should I just let it go and focus on healing? I feel like I’m drowning in emotions right now and don’t know how to proceed.

Any advice on how to handle this would mean a lot.