One of the wildest things about this sub…

…is how some people will read through literally hundreds of tragic stories here and then say something along the lines of: actually, if both people compassionate, understanding, and willing to communicate, it can work out!

Sure. It might. But there’s a much higher likelihood that it won’t and will in fact crash out in a traumatic fashion. And if it does last, it will be a hard row to hoe, year in and year out. If you aren’t actively aware of these facts, you are in denial. Period.

By all means— do what you want. But don’t kid yourself into thinking your relationship or your person are somehow above the actual realities of this illness. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can “problem solve” mental illness into being completely manageable simply because you want that to be true. And definitely don’t encourage others to ignore both research and loads of personal experiences.