What age did your high needs velcro baby become not that way?

Some days I feel like I'm losing my mind and failing. My baby is 10 months old and I still can't get anything done, I barely have time to make coffee in the morning with her in her high chair before she's screaming to be held. I can't even put her in her 5 ft × 5 ft playpen and sit near her on the couch without her freaking out. If I want her to nap I have to lay next to her or she wakes up screaming. I know all babies are different but I thought she'd be better at independent play by now. My fiance works all day every day, I have no village. I can accept I don't get time for myself anymore but I just want to be able to do the dishes or clean the catbox without being screamed at. I can't baby wear for all the chores that need to be done. I knew I'd have to lower my expectations for the cleanliness for awhile but I didn't think it'd still be this way at 10 months. She has so many toys, I'm always near her but that doesn't seem good enough. Just wondering for those who had babies like this, when does it let up? I can't handle ignoring her while she screams for me but I also can't handle starving myself in a filthy place. I've already broke my no screen rule for when I cook dinner and really hate myself for it.

Edit to add: Thanks for all the comments of solidarity so far, I'd love to be able to reply to everyone but can't be staring at my phone typing that long. Just need to take it a day at a time and readjust my expectations even more than I already have. Thank you all!