Should I continue this relationship out of fear of my biological clock and confront boyfriend over his cheapness?

Edit 2: I broke up with him and I am relieved. We did have a short chat but he was like, "Nah nah I am going to live with so-and-so now, this will be good for me," to which I said, "Wish you well." I had never heard the term "hobosexual" until you all responded and once I looked it up I was like, OMG this is HIM. I'd forgotten that early on in our "relationship" I'd invited him hiking one weekend in a place about 2 hours away (I was there for work already and suggested he join). He said, "Oh yeah that would be great let me see if Bob & Alice are heading that direction; I think they're going to a concert there and I can get a ride with them." His friends either didn't go or wouldn't give him a ride. I remembered thinking at the time, after he lamented not being able to go, "Nothing prevented you! Why didn't you just drive your own damn car?" Now I get it...total hobosexual!

Edit: Thanks for your suggestions. Yes, I am going to break up with this guy, as you have more or less validated (profusely) my gut instincts. I appreciate those of you who mentioned that if I removed my desire for a child I wouldn't be dating this guy. Good point. But good lord some of you are harsh!!

Hi Ladies,

Seeking wisdom. I am 39 and will be 40 very soon. I have been dating on and off a very respectful guy for about 7-8 months. However, I feel like I am at a cross-roads. I want children, as does he, and obviously time is not on my side. (I am open, by the way, to other methods of having children - egg/embryo donation, adoption, etc - because really I just want to parent at some stage and with the right partner, so perhaps that makes it easier.)

The issue is that while this guy is very nice, I am starting to wonder about him long-term. I'm also very picky, which is why I'm seeking advice here because in my 20s and early 30s there were a lot of good guys I passed on because I wanted to live my life. Joke is now on me. Haha!

Here is where I am getting cold feet. I had been going out with a few other people this fall because, let's call him Dan, basically told me he did not want to do activities on the weekend and just wanted to watch college and pro football. I like to spend my time out doing things so we did not see much of each other.

Shortly before Christmas we saw each other and have gotten together a few times since because he said he really wanted to "do things" and not spend his time watching sports and regretted he'd said that.

But then he sort of put me on the spot. Dan has been renting a room from a friend of his because several years ago Dan got a divorce (I would love to know why) and moved to our current city after the divorce (he had previously lived here and knew a lot of people here). Dan makes good money - both of us are professionals and he even commented the other day that he has piles of money sitting around. I have no doubt.

However, what I'm starting to gather is that he is incredibly cheap. He rents this room but his friend has basically given signals that two years into this arrangement he wants Dan out. So Dan says to me, "I guess I just wanted to see where we were going because I might move back to [Dan's home state] where I own a place." My first thought was, "This guy is trying to move in with me." I said I'd like to continue seeing him and asked him why he didn't rent an apartment. He said he didn't know if singing a year-lease was the best use of his resources since he already owned a condo elsewhere. He then said he would check about staying with another friend short-term.

I've been really put off by this. It seems to me he is angling to move in and just live off of me. He wants to go do things on the weekends but does not want to plan any trip ("you plan the trip and I'll come") and when I asked him to drive somewhere recently he looked shocked (presumably he didn't want to do spend the money on gas/mileage). I also realized that by him not having his own place, I have to do ALL the entertaining and hosting - and frankly, that gets tiring.

I am considering just telling him all this when I next see him - that if he wants to date me he needs to make an effort. He needs to plan the trip, spend the money (is that an unreasonable ask?), come up with ideas, and get his own goddamn apartment. Hell, sign a six month lease! He so far has done none of that and when I heard this whole strange living arrangement I started to really wonder about all of this longterm.

I realized the only reason I am even continuing to entertain this is because I want kids and my time is short. This is probably the wrong reason to continue this relationship BUT, let me ask, even if I did not want children, would you just deep-six this guy? I am starting to think I should, irrespective of the child question.