Women who settled for a partner they’re not necessarily sexually attracted to or in love with How’s it going?

Basically I am 32 and have never had the men I loved love me back.

I’ve dates men who liked my personality but weren’t necessarily attracted to me and have also been with the opposite- men who were sexually attracted to me but didn’t feel that spark that triggered them to fall in love. Ive also dated men who were wishy washy and weren’t sure how they felt about me as well.

Going forward, ive decided to choose the men who choose me first regardless of whether I feel attracted to them or not. I plan on sticking with the person who falls in love with me first and is also attracted regardless of how I feel about them.

I still do have standards in the sense that they can’t be abusive or make bad financial decisions either. If I’m going to have to settle in my love life I cannot compromise on financial stability. I’ve worked hard to build a comfortable life for myself and need someone who has the same mindset. I also don’t want to date someone over the age of 40 because they are in a completely different stage of life than myself. I may be 32 but I have never been married or had kids and still enjoy teenager shit like watching anime and smoking pot. I will also not date men under 25 because it just feels icky and inappropriate.

I’ve been in a sexless relationship with someone that wasn’t attracted to me and I know being on the receiving end of that sucks but maybe having been through it myself will make me more compassionate towards rhe person where I will be able to reciprocate so that they feel loved.

Just curious on if it’s possible to make it work and how’s it going ?