Anybody feeling less desirable due to their weight?

I consider myself a black bear. I am 6'3, 293 lbs approximately. I feel that I am practically invisible on hookup apps. A white guy who is a bear that I talked to from doublelist asked me to send a full frontal nude pic of my body and I sent it and he stopped responding. I have had this happen with other men as well. Doublelist is practically the only app I am on but I have used Scruff, Growlr, and Grindr with little results.

I have noticed that pretty much only white bears are desirable and normally when guys on doublelist respond to me (had this on other apps as well) all they ask is , "do you have a nice bbc for me?" Some of them don't even ask to see what I look like. I mean, are black guys only desired for that one thing all the time? I would like a guy to find all of me attractive and my dick is not even that fucking huge.

My ex boyfriend, who was a white bear, once told me (before I had gained a lot of weight) that he would never be with a fat black guy because fat black men are ugly.

I don't mind being fetishized for my weight but the bbc thing really bothers me. Anyway, I look like I am 8 months pregnant, the rest of my body is a normal size except my gut. I used to not hate being fat but because I don't get that much attention from guys , it is starting to make me self conscious.

I also will note, that even though a few guys (ones i don't think are hot) show interest in a hookup , but almost no white guy ever asks me on dates. weird