Any Western Filipinos/SEA notice shifts in tones / micro aggressions from East Asians?

For the most part this doesn’t apply to the new school Asians in the West, this mostly applies to FOB Asians / homeland Asians.

Almost all the interactions I’ve had with my Asian brothers and sisters from back home have started out as pleasant, but I’ll notice the interaction take a turn when I mention my Filipino roots and then almost all the East Asians have a little shift in tone that becomes condescending / dismissive or change the topic to other things (trying to be polite and hide biases prolly)

Example: Last week, I had one dude (International student from Japan, half Chinese half Japanese ) reach out to me via professional social media about how to break into the household name batch of Tech Companies and I set up a quick Zoom meet. I gave him the run down on how to prep for technical and behavioral interviews and show interest in the company, the usual BS you have to go through in a job interview, and to highlight stuff that’s unique about you, like growing up in Japan etc. Naturally the convo shifted towards me asking about his experience living in the US and growing up in Japan, and he asked me about mine so I gave my own version, AKA the US/Philippines side. Somewhere in the Philippines part, I noticed he started losing interest when I got to my Filipino side of the story (shown interest when I discussed California) and noticed he had a more dismissive tone for the rest of the conversation, and so I asked him if there was a problem he was having. I guess he picked it up on the context of my question or my tone was getting worse too so he quickly changed tune and changed the conversation. I ended the call feeling good about helping the guy but feeling like I was looked down on, considering I was the one giving this dude tips.

This was just one experience of many but I’ve had other similar experiences but in real life. I’ll notice East Asian folks do this to their own kind as well (aka different East Asians) and almost never to Europeans/white Americans.

I bet there’s many Filipinos and SEAs who have the same experience and wanted to open up the conversation. It’s one of the main blockers of Asian Unity and one I feel differentiates us from westerners, where westerners will still choose to be with their own, even their own they look down upon (Eastern /Southern Europeans, creating the EU with former enemies) over other races but Asians will choose Westerners over their own kind.