Cheating in a nutshell

“We have a system that sounds an alarm in our brain when we detect cheating. It is innate. The problem for those who think they can stay with a cheater is how do you live with a danger signal constantly ringing in your mind and body?

We would like to offer an easy answer, but there is no easy answer. Instead, we will give you the honest answer. No one knows. As Paul Ekman, the expert on facial expression and deception, said, “A big cost of lying is people won’t be able to trust you again...nobody knows the ability it takes to reestablish trust. You can’t work with someone, let alone live with someone, if you don’t trust them.”{”

Excerpt From Cheating in a Nutshell

This is the hardest part in my opinion. It’s not even that I ‘don’t trust’ him anymore, I don’t even really care per se, he can do what he wants.. it’s more the constant whirlpool of thoughts of how what my body told me was safe was completely unsafe. right under my nose, despite how sure I was that he would NEVER do that to me. It makes me question my self, the world. He was THE ONE person I felt I could trust completely, and I would have been better off in the first place not even knowing that feeling of safety if it was going to be taken away..