WH avoiding conversation?

A little over 2 months out from DDay. We both agreed that we wanted to explore reconciliation and see where things went until the summer…I can’t really separate or leave until kids get out of school so we decided to take these next handful of months to see what happens.

Every time I try to start a conversation deeper than talking about our kids or anything surface level, he shuts down. He will listen but never adds to the conversation. Yesterday I texted him and just said I really wanted to have a deeper conversation after the kids went to bed. He initially said yes but then when the time came he “doesn’t feel good”…He has a tension headache, a little queasy, feels like he might be coming down with something. Blah blah blah. The avoidance is ticking me off and making me feel like he’s still hiding stuff or just doesn’t really want to R. Which, honestly, fine…but just tell me that. I feel like he’s strung me along for so long and hurt me so bad that anytime I say I want to talk, he should be right there ready to go, whatever I need.

He was indifferent about MC when I initially suggested it, which is also annoying. How else do I get him to talk? This is why we are in this predicament to begin with, he would never talk to me! He avoided and used his A as an escape.