Busted husband

Found a hotel reservation made husband made. He said he picked up an extra shift at work.

He says he slept with her, a coworker, once and was going to the hotel that night.

This came out of left field. This man is just the nicest and most wholesome, kind, honest person I’ve ever met.

Married 12 years, have a kid. Financially, we’re great together, but we live in a HCOL area and would struggle apart. We’d have to sell the house and move school districts.

We’ve had a dead bedroom for years, but frankly never talked about. He says lack of intimacy drove him to it.

I’m not blameless. I harp on him for doing nothing around the house. I’ve been unhappy and haven’t talk about it either.

I suppose I’m saying I understand why he did it.

We’re planning counseling and have decided to make a plan to get things back on the rails.

Not even sure what I’m asking. Maybe an I crazy to try to make it work? Am I stupid? SOS

Cross posting at the suggestion of another forum.