AP Contacted ME for Consolation

My WH’s AP texted me 3 mi this post d-day in what literally seemed like a plea for consolation?? My WH has a history of trauma and used the affair to seek validation. He said he would tell her anything he thought she wanted to hear to continue getting the gratification. It was on/off seemingly EA and definitely a PA for 3 years.

She literally texted me the other day something along the lines of “I’ve been in therapy for years and can’t move on from your husband. I just want to know what his motives were to get some relief. I know I probably don’t deserve an answer but I’m desperate. Wish you and your kids the best.” I have no idea what her angle is.

I didn’t think it affected me much at the time but I’ve literally been crying for almost two days straight. I’m just getting dragged back to the early days of the affair disclosure and it’s so hard. My WH is in IC and we’ve been doing so well in MC that our therapist said we have such good chemistry and we’re on the right track and would we like to switch to once a month versus twice a month? I feel like I’m angry and skeptical of my WH again and how he really felt about me and her throughout the affair. I had no idea it was happening and he was always a sweet, doting husband and our friendship in our marriage was great. I just cannot put myself in his shoes and understand how he compartmentalized it or how he was overwhelmed with guilt while he was meeting up with her for sex on his lunch break or sending her nudes. My brain just cannot compute how wanted to please AP and maintain her desire AND love and connect so deeply with me.

Consolation, commiseration, and anything else is welcome.