Women's perception of inexperienced men in AM scene

I often see social media posts by South Asian women on their disappointment with men they encounter in the arranged marriage market

They ridicule / complain about their complete lack of dating and relationship experience despite being in their late 20s and early 30s. They see it as a red flag, a sign of incompetence, and even character flaws.

Here's an example of that sentiment

"No guy is above 30 and still without dating and relationship experience. If he really never had any its a huge red flag. Dude has serious personality issues, is an INC--, gay, or hates women He can't be trusted

And another

Guys who are 30 and never had relationships will have zero personality and emotional intelligence. They won't know how to talk to a woman or make her happy. Marrying such an emotionally stunted man would be unfulfilling

I find this perception really sad and anti-male, because there are literally millions of men in this age group who are well educated, reasonably successful in their careers, disciplined, healthy & fit, and self sufficient in life, have good terms with family and friends, yet they never dated because of mediocre looks.

My question for women is: Why do you fail to see that the looks & personality benchmarks men are held against in the dating world are not only extremely high and elitist, but also higher than those applicable to women?

I understand that dating is extremely easy for you. You can be facially unappealing, extremely short, literally obese, scrawny, broke, introverted, have no social life and still have 100s of dating options. But why do you project your experiences and reality onto men? We aren't as privileged as you. We need to be very good-looking, tall, have very good well proportioned physiques, be confident, charming, highly social in order to even be visible/relevant to women in a dating context. The rules are completely different for us

You are judging an arranged marriage prospect for his lack of dating experience, but forgetting you wouldn't have even looked in his direction when you were seeking a boyfriend in college because he's not good-looking/hot enough for THAT purpose. I routinely hear women themselves say that only around 15% guys in their university or workplace are good-looking enough to date.

Lets reconcile these views