AITA for not eating my girlfriend’s food?
My (27F) girlfriend and I (29m) have recently moved in together. We have been together for ~2 years and she is a great person and GF.
I personally really enjoy cooking. It’s been one of my favorite hobbies since I was a kid. I consider my food to be really good and most people tend to like it. I do admit, I am a pretty picky eater and have been my whole life.
The problem arose the other day, about 3 weeks into living together. We had finally finished setting up the apartment, and I brought up dinner plans. GF says she’ll cook and seems pretty excited about it. I am a little bit wary because I’ve never seen her cook before (I’ve cooked for her many times for dates, or if she was at my place etc.) but I agree. She goes to the grocery store.
Now, she knows how I am. My likes, dislikes and that I am a picky eater so she picked something that she knew I liked. Fettuccine Alfredo with salmon. When she came back I help her put away the groceries and I noticed she had bought jarred sauce and what looked to be pre-seasoned frozen salmon.
Personally, when I cook I don’t like to take shortcuts and prefer to make things from scratch where I can. If it’s not from scratch I tend to add my own flavor & twist to whatever I did buy. I also am a fan of high quality ingredients and proper technique. Regardless, I just stayed quiet and let her do her thing.
When she served the food, I lost my appetite. The salmon looked burnt and the sauce didn’t looked seasoned at all. I ended up just sipping my wine and eating a couple bites to be nice. The fettuccine was over cooked, bland and mushy. The salmon was too salty and tough. I told her I wasn’t really that hungry, packed it up, put in the fridge and did the dishes.
A few hours later I was hungry & decided to doordash some food. I asked her if she wanted anything and immediately I knew I F’d up. She got really quiet and sad. Then said I knew you didn’t like it and walked away to our room. I followed her and started apologizing, saying it’s not her fault I am just a picky eater. I suggested that maybe I handle the food from now on. She started crying so I just let it go. I don’t want this to be a problem but I can’t stand to continue to be expected to eat what she cooks.
Edit : fixed small detail in 3rd paragraph
Edit 2 for some FAQ and clarification : We didn’t have any other food in the house, we had just moved in. We were ordering deliver pretty consistently up until then. I always offer to her or for that matter anyone when I order something. Also, thank you for the suggestions that I try to teach her how to cook, I never really thought about that because I’m used to cooking by myself. As I stated before she is well aware of my pickiness, and I did attempt to try the food. I just couldn’t eat it.
AITA ?