AIO wondering if I was abused as a kid?

I honestly don’t know if I was abused, my fiance says I was, but from what I remember it wasn’t that bad? Idk I just need to know if I’m being entitled or over reacting to some things I’m still upset about? Idk if this is triggering stuff or not so I’m just going to make a list without much detail. - I was told I was a bad kid because I would make my mom feel bad by asking her to do crafts before I was in school - When I started kindergarten I had a ritual that I would complete on the bus ride home because I thought if I did it just right my mom would be home. As a back up plan I had a calendar of sorts because my step dad always seemed to be happy one day and angry the next, so I tried to keep track of what day - I was constantly dragged by my ear for doing things wrong - step dad always had to use the bathroom while I was taking baths as a kid which I just found weird because we live in the country and he’s a dude so like pee outside? - I was held responsible for my half siblings mistakes - when I was 11 I was sent across the road to live in a studio area of a bnb my mom ran. I was expected to professionally clean said bnb and would get screamed at every time because how I cleaned wasn’t good enough. - around 13 CPS found out I wasn’t living in the family home and forced me to move back in with them, I was guilted after because “there wasn’t enough room for everyone” (meaning my two siblings and me) - 13-15 I had no bedroom door because my room wasn’t clean (to be fair, it wasn’t. I’ve always been a bad cleaner, very chaotic, struggled to keep up with laundry etc) - often slept in the tub because it was the only room with a lock and my step dad is scary - constantly told by step dad things like “you’re no better than a cheap hooker/2 cent hooker”, “everything you do you do to make everyone else miserable”, called a bitch, mocked during any kind of showing of emotion - reading through journals and private poetry then being yelled at for whatever I wrote - getting in trouble for talking about my family to other people - “framed” for doing things I never did like eating a sweet, breaking something, or like this one time I was told to go till one of the gardens so I asked where the tiller was and so my step dad told my mom I didn’t know was a tiller was and my punishment was to spend every day outside tilling gardens? - blamed that I was the reason my grandparents didn’t like my stepdad even though I never talked to them about him - finally left at 18 after being called “an embarrassment to the family” because my car was dirty even though step dad made me clean out his car all of the time - my responsibility to do all of the family laundry, clean my parents bedroom and bathroom, fold and put away parents laundry as well as my own, expected to mow lawn every day in the summer (it took 3 days to mow the lawn with the push mower because farm yard”, water 80+ trees without the hose I was only allowed to fill up grain pails with water for some reason? Other than that it was just basic stuff like the dishes, living room, and the bnb - punishments were typical, taking my phone away, doing wall squats, doing burpees, no dinner, no friends, no music, etc

This is all that really stands out to me. To be honest there’s a lot of memories that are just kind of like half a memory? Like I know something happened but I just remember the before? These are Just small things that I’m like “that kind of sucked. I’ll do it differently if I’m ever a parent” and like maybe toxic, not great choices, but I don’t think it was abuse? I was a pretty bad kid, I lied a lot and I wasn’t clean, so they were probably just trying to make me into a better kid. I really hate that I just left a note for my mom and left without saying goodbye to my siblings or mom because they didn’t deserve that. Idk. My fiance says it’s abuse, I said it’s not, he said “put it on AIO and see” so here I am.