My boyfriend has gotten very close to a woman online and I’m not sure how to process it?

This is going to be a long one so strap in. I really just need advice on if I should be feeling concerned about the situation or if I’m just being crazy jealous?

For starters I have been in a relationship before where he was a big gamer as well. It was his joy. I had caught him multiple times speaking to and messaging women online inappropriately. This ultimately ended that relationship as it was obviously disturbing and I couldn’t forgive anymore. That situation has caused me to be a lot more cautious when dealing with similar situations.

So to get into it from what I can remember my bf and this woman have been online friends for maybe about 5 months or so now. Over the past month or two I’ve noticed that they’ve gotten very close with one another. There are many times that he will stay up all night playing with her until she goes to bed and they will be talking in a party alone with one another for hours on end. Do I know what they talk about? No, I do not. The Xbox is in the living room so I don’t know what the conversations consist of.

He does set aside time to play with me at times of course. I recently was at my parents home house sitting for them for about a week. My brother owns an Xbox so when I house sit for my parents I get to play with my bf on my brothers Xbox as we only have 1 Xbox at the house so we kinda just share it. While I was at my parents though he barely played with me. He’d say he was busy helping his guy friends out with a glitch on BO6, but then I’d looked and he would be playing Phas with this woman and some other people for hours while I was waiting to play with him. That had honestly upset me at the time and just made me feel so insignificant that I kinda just threw playing with him out the window while I was at my parents house.

We had been watching a movie about a week ago and he was kinda just texting throughout the majority of the movie. We hadn’t spent much time together so I was very excited to do something with him. It was kind of a let down when he was just texting the whole time. He was texting his Xbox girl friend throughout the movie, and I knew that because we were watching the movie on Xbox using the web browser and every time a notification of her sending a message to him would pop up he’d immediately pick up his phone. So you know, that was another thing. I had said something about it wondering what they were talking about that was so important. He ended up just deleting the entire message string, so clearly that rubbed me extremely wrong as well. Then offered to have her send him the screenshots of their messages (all of them) to show me, but when he showed me screenshots it was messages from days before.

The other night I was laying down in the living room (his headset is pretty loud you can hear every word people are speaking) and I was on the brink of falling asleep and I am sure he thought I was asleep and he and this woman were alone in a party talking and all I hear is her speaking in a baby voice to him. He’s like “you do that so well sstttooopppp I feel bad I’m sorryyyy” because he didn’t play with her earlier that day I guess. So she was making a deal out of it. Just weird. As soon as he gets on she invites him to parties and games like she’s just sitting there waiting. If he doesn’t wanna play with her at that moment he goes to the length of appearing offline while we play to “not hurt her feelings”.

The Mike Tyson fight that aired on Netflix as well was a big deal to him so he watched it. I did as well. The fight occurred while I was at my parents house sitting still. We were just texted back and forth about the fight while we were watching it. Come to find out he had actually been in a party with this woman and someone else watching it live. Also kinda hurt when I found that out because I wasn’t at all invited to that little get together.

To add onto everything apparently they were also watching movies together while I was gone at my parents. Streaming them and watching them together…..is this not a long distance relationship? What in the actual f is going on here?

Well, if you’ve made it this far I am pleasantly surprised. If you have any idea on what this is and how I should be processing it, I am open. It is something that is just weighing on my mind and something I am having trouble navigating. As I don’t have proof of them full on sending nudes and what not, it just seems like an extremely emotional relationship has accumulated between my boyfriend and this random online woman.

UPDATE: Please do not message me asking if I want to “get close with you” and message you online. These messages are extremely disturbing and I strongly advise you not to waste your time messaging me some vulgar concept as such.