The Shared Trauma of LA Fires

I love substack.

Another adoptee author (Pamela A. Karanova) wrote aa post there about the shared trauma of the LA fires. I love the way she expresses her experience as an adoptee and I knew exactly what she was getting at, regarding this topic. It is absolutely something I've been thinking about and I'm sure alot of other adoptees have been thinking about it as well.

She asked what other adoptees were feeling about it?

This was my answer: "I have been feeling alot of interesting feelings about this. Bcs adoption is literally the fire that destroys our home and incinerates our previous lives.

But for me it makes me feel even worse. Because I know these people at least are going through this trauma with other people. It is specifically the shared nature of the trauma that actually helps build communities and help people go through tough times.

Adoptees don't get that. Our grief is encouraged, required to be hidden. There is no shared trauma. There are no helpers. Only people who seek to get their money's worth and exploit the poor.

But I think also that there are people who are suffering for reasons we don't know, we can't say anything or don't have the voice means to speak up. Those are the people I'm thinking of. Those are the people who inhabit my nothing place.

I wish there was a space for everyone who felt disregarded and forgotten to come and speak up and for their trauma to be shared. But due to how adoption occurs, that simply will never be the case for us. And many of the people who are suffering, everywhere, with no one for them to hold on to or even listen to them."

Y'all have any thoughts about the shared trauma of the fires in LA?