AITH for demanding an apology

Update: Out of curiosity I accepted his call from jail this morning.

Apparently a bartender and patrons secretly called the police and lied about him being aggressive with everyone just to get him arrested..... Nobody even warned him they were offended, just him having a great time then the police were there......... When I told him that was a bs story and I wasn't bailing him out he started screaming that I was a terrible person, a selfish sellout who ruined his life, and a narcissist who mistreated him out of jealousy. I stayed on the line a few minutes to waste his prepaid minutes until the line was cut off.

About an hour later some random number texted to tell me my "friend" is devastated by my sudden hatred and disregard for him and it's my fault he's going to miss work and lose his job because I'm too cheap to bail him out.

I hope he goes to inpatient rehab and get some serious therapy. I'll never fully close the door on him, but he's at a major fork in the road of a journey that I can't take with him.

-end update-

My friend of over 30 years and his guest visited me for a long weekend. After some sightseeing we (me, my husband, friend, d guest) decided to visit a brewery for just one round before going home as my husband was going to grill steaks (a requested meal from my friend).

After our drinks arrived my friend announced he wanted to show his guest the brewery viewing area (a space to see the brewing machinery through a window) and would return in 5 minutes, and left their left their drinks at the table.

They were gone 45 minutes before returning to the table without any explanation. I didn't want to spend another $15 a drink, so my husband and I were just sitting there waiting the entire time.

That night I brought it up and explained it was rude, but my friend rolled his eyes and explained they wanted to smoke, so they walked down the street to smoke in a cigar bar and looked around the attached gift shop. (For 35-40 minutes....)

After my friend returned home, I told him that his refusal to even acknowledge his initial behavior was a big problem. He once again buckled down that I was overreacting.

My response was to demand an apology for both the initial rude act and the refusal to acknowledge it.

Instead, my friend told me he was ending our friendship because was wrong to demand an apology for something he didn't care about.

It's now been 6 weeks and we haven't spoken.

AITH for demanding an apology

ETA: everyone asking about the phones- his was in a jacket pocket at the table. I tried calling/texting his guest, who didn't answer and later told us his phone was on silent.