Aitah for calling out my Roomates Toxic Friend.

I will Call myself Y (M). Roomate is G(M). The Friend is A(F)

Aitah for Calling out A for her Toxic Behavior towards Myself and my Roomate?

Few months back My Roomate added myself to a Discord A created. At First it was fine. She was nice and Sweet. She even paid for some of the games on my Steam wishlist, wich I found nice of her. However after a fee months she saw a game on sale that she wanted the try and wouldn't shut up about it.

This is where the issue started. She kept trying to get everyone to buy it and download it and play it with her. I did my research, looked into it and checked what it was about (I don't remember what it was about anymore.) I just remeber thinking to myself I don't think I'd like this game and it's not for me. So I explained that and considered it settled. But it wasn't, she kept pushing. And Pushing and Pushing. Over the course of 1.5 weeks she asked so many times I lost count, even offering to pay for ot for me. And I had gotten to a point that I blew up at her and told her to stfu and I didn't want to play the game and to save her Money and use it on someone that was more interested on playing the game with her. Again I tried to be respectful and politely decline before this.

She started being upset and saying I had no idea what a good game was and that I was being an asshole for turning down her offer etc. (This will come into play later) even a mutual friend we had at the time was agreeing with her and laughing about the whole situation. (She later unfriended him for unrelated reasons)

Ever since this point she has been critical of me and the games I prefer to play. (I like Halo, I think it's superior to CoD. And I like Games like Borderlands and Doom Eternal, mostly play games like Horizon and Ghost.) Says her games are superior (she plays Fortnight, Minecraft, Cod etc) I've always chopped it down to agree to disagree but she kept provoking me. To the point she started targeting my shows and music interest.

Now with that being said. I'm not against playing CoD and other games. But I prefer not to. With the recent release of BO6 Citadel des Morts she wanted to get that early completion calling card. I was down to help.

I joined and things were going good. For the most part she was calling the shots (she always does) and I was like whatever. I did the Fire Sword (the easiest one btw) cause she asked me to do so. I finished mine and G finished his sword. A However was Struggling with the Light Sword. And what I asked what was wrong? Did she need help? She kept ignoring me. She wasn't communicating. After several rounds of her unable to complete the Sword she let's out a loud frustrated Groan and says "fuck this Fucking game" and then DC on us. Myself and G alongside the other random with us got as far as we could until we called it quits.

I got the Calling Card the next day by myself with a bunch of Randoms. I had to get carried a bit cause I died and lost my stuff. But the Randoms were chill. We had some good laughs and when I thanked for the carry they said I did my parts and thanked me for sticking it out. We had one more laugh at the end when I asked "When did the Winter Soldier get here?"(Ravenov looks like Bucky to me. That's beside the point)

The day after that I saw on the Discord that A had been going full scorched earth in the discord. Was shitting on everyone she could. Calling people names and acting like she was superior to everyone. I ignored it at first. But as the messages kept coming I saw her mention she couldn't find anyone "competant" enough to do the Easter Egg with and needed one of them to Help her out.

That was the final Straw. I had seen her do this before. I had seen my Roomate exhausted after talking to this B*tch some days. And I tore into her. But before I get to that. More context.

My Roomate G has been an amazing Friend. Like a Brother to me. Supportive of me when I struggle with my depression and defends me when others make fun of me. I'm aware I'm socially anept at times and sometimes awkward. This is due to an abusive childhood. I can be really negative and nihilistic. And he always helps me to see a more positive and different outcome. And I always do what I can at times to show him how much I appreciate him. I homed him when he was homeless several years back. I make sure he is eating and taking his medications. Help him top up if he needs it. For new years this year we were both strapped AF for cash. But instead of buying the game I was saving for I instead used the Money and bought him a Pizza all for himself.

So here A was. Shitting on my Brother. Calling him incompetent. And I was done. I called her out. Said she was the one who left the game without communicating. She was the one struggling. How she didn't deserve G as a Friend and that all she ever does is shit on people when they stop putting her on a pedestal. She thinks she is all that in a bag of chips but she wasn't. And that she should really reconsider a few things when I, someone who struggles with friends due to my social awkwardness and am willing to put in alot, don't want to be her friend anymore because of how she treats others. I made sure to do all this publicly as well in the discord, so Firstly she couldn't bend or twist the words I had said, they were there, for everyone to see. And Secondly, I guess part of me hoped some of the others would see what I was saying and come to the realization.

But instead everyone else came to her defense. Protecting her and saying I was wrong etc. But I didn't care. I was done with her and I left the discord.

Before I left I could see her trying to insult me. Saying it must si k to always be so confidently wrong. And that I sucked at the game and had to be carried (I'm assuming she was guessing cause I never told her) and tried using something I said defend my roomate against me in my face about no wonder My ex's prefer my roomate (my ex GF and my roomate hooked up. But he asked me first if I was OK with it. And I said yes he could do so cause that's what she was after thinking she was going to hurt me. But I already knew what she was doing) I never told her that bit. She was acting like he didn't get any and I corrected her saying he did actually cause I knew my ex and him hooked up.

Later I apologized to my roomate knowing he probably had to convince her to let me into the Discord and that it probably reflects on him etc. He didn't seem worried. He said he understood what I was doi g and appreciated it. While simultaneously saying he will decided who is good enough for him to be friends with and defended her.

This is where things get confusing. He told me she had a personality disorder (I was never informed of this. But it does explain some of the things the others were saying. I guess they assume I had that context. Or maybe I missed it being mentioned) and that I shouldn't be so upset about what she said. But I respectfully disagreed with him and said even if she did have something like that it didn't justify her treating the both of us like Garbage the way she does and that she is using his kindness and understanding against him and using her personality as a shield to deflect taking responsibility of her actions.

G is still friends with A and they talk Regularly. And that's fine. Atleast I'm no longer in her line of sights as a Target. But I wanted to get a second opinion. See from others perspectives if I'm really the AH here or justified in what I did. G seems to think I'm misunderstanding her personality thing and doesn't beleive what I'm saying. Maybe he's just being patient with her or maybe there is something else. Idk.

A s before anyone jumps to the conclusion. No he does not fancy her. I asked him once about it and he adamantly does not think a relationship with her would work out long term and doe st want to pursue that.

So what do yall think. AITAH?