AITAH For Leaving my Wife after a Fight
So, a year ago my now separated wife and I had a fight that broke me so I just left, noped right out, and to this day i cant figure out if i was in the wrong about leaving so I'm looking for either support or condemnation here.
I left because of her manipulative tendencies, or that's at least how I perceived them anyway. For example: she wanted to spend 5k on a week long holiday, I said no because it would just go on the credit card which we struggle to pay off anyway, cue the personal attacks "you're thinking like a poor person" or "you're trying to control how I spend money" yada yada yada.
It's an extreme example but a real one. We actually had a great loving and trusting relationship spanning 9 years and she gave me everything she could and more. But when ever it came to conflict resolution, she would pull these tricks to get her way and then later avoided accountability with shit like "oh I didnt actually mean that."
Our final fight was nuts, I emotionally shut down and she had a panic attack, a lot of things were said. Two days later I bought plane tickets and two weeks later flew back to my home country. I refused therapy, psychologist appointments, refused to even really discuss what had happened with her because I just went on auto pilot/was in shock.
So AITAH for walking out on my wife after a fight the way I did? On the one hand I had to get out to protect myself emotionally from her, but I dont know if I owed her couples counseling first after so much time together. You're meant to fix marriages rather than throw them away but I have know idea where the acceptable boundary is.
I can clarify things if needed.